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How Do I Handle the Fear that I’m Feeling? Eckhart Tolle

Have you ever had an experience where it was like you were “out of body”, separate from your body and calmly standing back, watching yourself do something?  Yes, I know, sounds nutty but actually I think that is what awareness is.  Eckhart speaks about it really well in this new video.  I’ve experienced it in a few dramatic situations but these days it’s more constant for me.

So, there I am, spending 6, 8, maybe 12 hours watching “Magnificient Century Kossem” on YouTube (yes, stopping to eat and go to the toilet just about!).  Meanwhile, I am aware there is another part of me, watching – not judging, but that part of me is aware that what I am not doing is not good for me.  OK we are in isolation, more or less, I don’t have any work to do for my business – it’s closed.  Nevertheless, my current addiction to this series is not good for me.   More about it in my post “How Good is Your Focus?”

This morning, my meditation was a waste of time.  In fact I didn’t even finish it.  What was going through my head?  Yes, the story line from the TV series and it was CALLING OUT TO ME!!  Like a drug!

I’m putting in his video for other reasons.  He gives a great description about how we don’t think thoughts…yes, we don’t think thoughts, they are just like radio waves passing through or (if we are giving them enough attention) going round and round inside our heads.  Mostly useless thoughts, of no value to us because much of what we think about is not actually happening now, we are just imagining it.

Finally, we can’t fight the thoughts, we have to replace them, but sometimes finding a better thought can be difficult.  However, here he shows us how concentrating on the feeling inside our hands can stop the thoughts.  Go on – have a listen, hope it helps.

Worry is a only a habit – a bad one!

Since I started doing Dr. Joe’s work I have become aware that now I sometimes catch myself reaching for a past memory – no, reaching for a past gut experience, a bad, unhappy, miserable, worry-some feeling.  But feelings are created by our thoughts, so my body is pushing me to search my memory for a sad or worrying past event.

It’s as if some part of me needs that feeling…there is something telling me I must remember those events that triggered these negative emotions, telling me I can’t afford to forget them.

From what I understand of the work – this means I am making progress and my body is throwing up this anxiety response as I begin to relax.  My body is more used to the stress response being activated most hours of the day.  It is used to the constant flow of adrenaline and cortisol.

Now that I am meditating and relaxing, my body is missing the cortisol and adrenalin hormones that stress and anxiety trigger, and it is pushing me to re-activate the production of these chemicals.  By recognising this and refusing to remember those old worrysome thoughts I am winning the battle – the chemicals are kept at bay and in time it will get easier.  Catching myself reaching for the “worry thought” is real progress.  Finding a happy thought is making even more progress.

Last night I read where Joe writes about creating “worst scenarios” .  I started doing that about 3 years ago.  I thought then that if I dipped into a worst scenario and realised I could emotionally survive it that it would help me cope with the pain I was feeling.  Well, I suppose it did – unfortunately, my worst scenario did materialise.  The good news is I did survive it.  Now, I can see how easy it is to materialise stuff and events – but why, oh why do I slip so easily into the bad daydreams instead of the good ones?  I guess the answer is also “habit”.