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Life on Earth – Past .v. Future

As humans, it comes natural to us to try to find the silver lining behind the cloud.  I am done looking for the silver lining behind coronavirus/covid.  There is one outcome from it though – it has given many of us time to think, reflect, analyse and research the world around us – me included.

I am going to remember what life was like when I was a child and anyone born after 1970/80 will have no idea of my memories as  child or how I saw the world.   I know there are people with different memories – as you would read in books like “Angela’s Ashes” and there were the Magdalene Laundries and the Industrial Schools and much more – they all still exist in one form another today if you just look close enough.  But I going to tell of other things.

I lived through a time when

  • there was no television – we had radio and gramaphones that played records.
  • Our music, if it was not traditional, came from pirate radio – Radio Caroline or Radio Luxembourg.  I remember hearing it was sometimes from a ship out at sea.  That was rock n roll or pop music.  We had Elvis Presley, Johnny Cash and the Beatles!
  • We had dances on a Saturday and Sunday nights in local parish halls or later on the big Dance Halls.  That and Sunday mass was where most people met their wives/husbands.
  • I remember having a bedside candle, not a bedside light.
  • Not everyone could read and not everyone had access to lots of books (I did later) so we went to bed and waited to fall asleep naturally – we mostly dreamed of our futures and what we want to do or be or have.  We used our imagination.
  • there were no cars – we went to church on Sunday in a Horse & Trap, winter and summer.
  • there were no supermarkets – there was a shop several miles away.  My aunt would cycle to it once every two weeks or so.  My uncle would bring the morning paper on his way from the creamery.  He took four big churns of milk from the farm to the local creamery about 3 miles away with a horse and cart.  He would also bring grain or flour from the mill when needed by the same way.   Now and again an enterprising man would call with a van full of groceries which we could buy from – that was a treat.
  • we ate breakfast, dinner ( mid-day) and supper.  We did not have snacks in between.  The only fruit we knew were apples, plumbs, cherries, rhubarb, gooseberries, blackcurrants – all of which we grew ourselves.  Then we had wild blackberries, wild strawberries and mushrooms – all of which were safe to eat because we didn’t have widespread pesticide spraying.  We only had ice cream in the summer time if we visited a town or city.
  • Weekdays breakfast was a boiled egg, homemade brown or soda bread with butter and jam.  We also had black treacle, golden syrup and honey.  Dinner was bacon, boiled potatoes and either cabbage or turnip.  Supper was a choice of boiled egg, cold bacon and cabbage – from dinner time if left over – on slices of homemade soda bread/butter.  Sometimes there was afternoon tea or a cup of tea at night with a slice of rhubarb tart or cake – always homemade.   When wild mushrooms were found they were fried for supper – with a dash of tea to make a tasty gravy.
  • Sunday breakfast was a fry up of rashers (bacon), sausages, fried egg and a beautiful gravy made by adding tea to the frying pan (no, I don’t remember how to make it, wish I did).  Sunday dinner was roast chicken and potatoes – don’t remember the veg.  Sunday evening was left overs from dinner and maybe fried sliced potatoes and onions.
  • We killed a pig once a year.  Neighbours would help each other.  Maybe two families would each kill an butcher their pigs together.  It was a process that would take a day or two.  Most of the meat was put into big barrels of salt for a few weeks/months (I don’t remember) then it would be taken out in chunks and hung up near in a hot press to “cure” – that was the best meat I ever tasted and nobody today can replicate it because it takes time and we are now in any age where everything has to be “instant”  The women would take the blood and make black pudding by mixing it with rice and spices.  You could not find a pudding today to match it.   They also made sausages and what held the meat was the scraped and washed gut.  Then there was the tripe/drisheen/Pigs Head and trotters lol!  Before you allow this to assault your sense of… whatever.. remember Ireland had terrible famine years in the not too distant past – food was a thing to be respected and never wasted.  That was ingrained in us.
  • We didn’t have a freezer or a fridge.  We had a slab of marble on which to lay food in the coldest area of the house.  For some days after the killing of the pig we had porksteak, pork chops, sausages and puddings.   When it was gone, it was gone because it would not keep anyway and these parts of the pig were also shared with extended family or friends.
  • Farmers didn’t make silage – they made HAY.  We had distinct seasons.  Summer began in June, we put on our summer dresses and didn’t need to take them off until Sept.  Summer was summer with little or no rain.  Winter was winter and we had enough snow to build snowmen and have snowball fights.  We had clear blue skies unless clouds arrived with rain or snow.
  • When it rained we put on wellingtons and raincoats if we needed to go somewhere or do something.  If not we sat inside the windows or, if not cold, inside the open doorway  – maybe even a stool in the cowshed because it was always warm there if the the cows were in, and we watched the rain falling – it was peaceful.  Remember no radio, no phones, no music outside – just nature.  We rode the horse and ran when the gander or the cock chased us.
  • We hugged and played with dogs and cats and rolled around in the haybarn – they never seemed to have anything we should be afraid of.  Never heard of “ticks”.
  • Farmers treated their animals with ointments and potions.  Vets only appeared if need for something to do with a cow (AI I think)
  • Potatoes, apples, beets were harvested and stored.  Vegetables were grown according to the season.  We harvested seeds from flowers and plants for planting the following year.  We had flower gardens.
  • We lived in houses made of thick stone walls and thatched roofs with vaulted ceilings.  They were warm in winter and cool in summer.
  • We didn’t have heated houses.  We used hot water bottles in bed and every house had a fireplace in the kitchen – some had another one in the parlour (sitting room)
  • We didn’t get sick much and if we did need a doctor, someone went to the local post office, called him and he came.
  • Our standard medicine was a spoon of malt for children who were considered not strong or a small glass of stout mixed with hot milk for iron.  Aspirin for fever.  Headache didn’t seem to be a problem.  Homemade hot lemonade made from lemons and orange peels simmered in water with a little added sugar and the lemon juice.  If you had a cut you spilled peroxide on it.  If you had a thorn you put peroxide on it, burned the top of a needle with a match and took out the thorn, more peroxide.  Job done.  If you had a blister you did the same with the needle.  If you had a boil you put a hot poultice on it until the poison was drawn.
  • Sometimes you went to a “healer” for an ointment or something if modern medicine didn’t work – sometimes the healer did the job. I saw that myself with a family member who had rash the doctor could not heal and it kept spreading – the ointment from the healer cleared it.
  • We all got chicken pox, measles and german measles, less got the whooping cough, mumps or maybe mouth thrush.
  • I am rarely if ever sick now and maybe that is because I grew up in a world where we seldom talked of germs.  We had a bath and washed our hair once a week.  Other than that (as children) we washed our face, hands every night.  We brushed our teeth morning and night.  We washed our feet in a basin of water if we got them wet or we noticed they were hot, sweaty or smelly!  We washed our hands before every meal.  Men on the farm might wash their face also if they had been doing something dusty like piking hay.
  • We did not know Autism or Down’s Syndrome.  We had some who were regarded as a “bit slow” but they lived the same as we did.  We had infant deaths, cot deaths, heart attack/stroke, accidents.  I never head the word “cancer”.  Most of my family lived to their 80s and 90s.
  • We played in the fields and when I lay on the grass I would smell the cowslip flowers – the nearest to that smell now is Christian Dior’s “Diorissimo”  – isn’t that sad?  We had hedgerows covered in flowers – bluebells, primroses, cowslips, dandelions, wild strawberries, scarlet pimpernel and more.  I could pick clover flower and suck the honeydew from it.
  • We visited each other’s houses.  It was a real treat to be taken out to visit at night to someone’s house where we sat around the fire and listened to stories.  They were usually Irish stories and legends.  We knew our history not from school but from the old people.   We believed in the Ban Sighe who foretold a death ( I heard her).  We believed in fairies and leprachauns with their pots of gold at the end of the rainbow.  We all know people who had “weird” encounters or experiences like walking home in the dark (flashlights) and hearing their names called or encountering strange dark forms.  So nighttime was a little scary but in daylight I remember going looking for the fairys in the fields – being warned to stay off the fairy forts and hoping to find magic stones.
  • The “travellers” were more commonly called “tinkers” they could tinker with anything and fix it.  They called around to houses and mended the pots and pans.  They told our fortunes.  They lived in and drove around in coloured wagons pulled by horses.
  • I remember my uncle had a shoe last (a form for putting a shoe on while hammering in pins to fix the sole to the shoe.  He also had the big needle and the waxed thread and very occasionally I watched him mend a shoe.

I am not going to go through the long contrast of what is life today – we know what it is.   Don’t tell me I am giving an idealised memory of life.  If it sounds ideal – maybe it was.  My point is I remember a time when life was completely different.  Looking at the intervening time it seems to me

  • the more we came to rely on modern medicine the sicker we have become
  • you get a medicine, it has side effects, you develop another ailment, you get a medicine for that, it has side effects, you develop another ailment……and on it goes.
  • I have recently come of medicine that stated me on the above trend of medicine – I am better now than I was on the medicines.
  • Is it in the interest of Big Pharma to cure us or make us ill – think about that.
  • Cancer seems to have taken over the planet – it is an industry that generates millions of jobs and Billions of Dollars.  Yet they never seem to announce a cure for much.  Bit odd.
  • The number of vaccinations we are brainwashed and coerced into injecting into babies and children is horrifying.
  • Western media rarely report the genocide in poor countries following vaccinations.
  • The EU banned the killing of pigs by farmers.  Introduced subsidies to make it more profitable for farmers not to grow food or raise animals.  Introduced “hygiene plus track n trace” to make it illegal and impossible for food growers on a small scale to supply shops or restaurants. Now, not only have we lost our receipies, our old ways of doing things, our healthy sources of food.  Our food supply is in the hands of big corporations.  Meaning they have the power of life and death over us.
  • Corporations like Monsanto have taken over our seed supply and corrupted it with GMO’s
  • Our governments promote the spraying of cancer causing metals into the atmosphere via Chem Trails.  Don’t even try to tell me that chem trails are caused by ordinary air traffic.
  • PAYE was introduced to Ireland in 1960 – it is a tax on our work.
  • There is a tax on EVERYTHING we do, produce and use.  Think about that.
  • There is a rapidly increasing difference between the money the ordinary worker takes home at the end of the week and what the “higher ups” take home.
  • The richest people in the world have enough money to fix ALL the problems in the planet.  Do you actually SEE where any of their “Charity” money ends up?  Think carefully about that.
  • Every charity you know of…. how much payment do the managers and top people earn?  Think about that.
  • Are they really giving anything away?  Is it just going round through different organisations and people within organisations within organisations?
  • Is “charity” from the top earners just a tax dodge?
  • How many boards do the top earners sit on?  What do they do on those boards?  And how much do they earn from “having a seat on the board”?
  • What do ALL the politicians do when they leave public office?  They sit on boards.
  • Have you noticed how every new innovation in government comes down to being a means to squeeze, corral and control us?  Basically we are the money generators and they are the collectors and users.  Because they are the 1% fishers and we are the farmed fish.  It doesn’t matter when we die as long as we leave a few babies behind to continue the system
  • The biggest joke (not funny) of all is that the 1% have now come up with the best idea of all.  They cream off the most promising of our young people all over the world, scholarship them into programs where they brainwash 99% of them into believing they are doing good for humanity and fast track them into positions in government, industry, technology and business.  Then, the 1% of  those mis-fortunate “cream of the crop” get fast-tracked into a different world of evil – that is another story.
  • We have watched the steady attack on the status of white males in the media and then the push for “equality” for minorities – women/gay/lesbian/transgender/migrants/coloured/disabled.  I am all for that.  Except now it has gone too far.  It is now the native born white male/females who appear to be in the minority.  None of this is real.  It is all media driven and political driven.  It is time to wake up to what is pushed on us.  Pushed on us BECAUSE we are intrinsically human and kind.  However, you do know the story of the woman who took the tired snake into her house?  He turned around and bit her – he told her “but you knew I was a snake BEFORE you took me in”.

At the end of my musings on life as it was versus life as it is I come to the conclusion we have, unwittingly, become like farmed animals. Our function is to work and produce.  We are being desensitized to the needs of those around us – first it was those in far-away wars, now it is those near us.

Dehumanisation is well underway.  The control the 1% have on the planet is frightening – that is the real 2020 virus.  Their last step on the game is to mask us, social distance us, isolate us, kill off the elderly, sick, weak and disabled.  As we turn away from what is happening, as we refuse to really look at those giving the orders, we are losing our very souls.  It is the end of the world, as we have known it.  Those who remain at the end of this will be micro-chipped, cash will be no more.  The chip will communicate your daily orders to you via your phone.  The chip will ready your vital body stats.  The chip will turn your money supply aka your food supply on or off.  We will no longer be human – we will be trans-human.  The term they are using is Human 2.0

Oh – I almost forgot  – you need to start looking at who are really 100% and who are really 100% women in places of power.  If you are not an alcoholic – I advise having  stiff whiskey first.  And then ask yourself “What the fuck is that all about?” Start with OBAMAS, NZ, UK –  Forget invasion of the body snatchers!  This is something even more weird.  Stay tuned.

What do you want?  Open your eyes before it is too late.  My eyes are open and I hope for a miracle to turn all this on it’s ear.


There is no stopping what is coming.

Today is 09 Nov 2020.  The US write 11/9 – it is 11.09.2020.

Remember 11 Sept 2001.  The US write 9/11  – it was 09.11.2001.

Is today the day true justice begins for the events of 9/11 ?

When we watch a movie we all know it will come to a conclusion in time.  When we look at history we see that various civilizations all came to an end.   Can you  entertain the possibility that our current civilization is now ending as we know it?  Not with a physical cataclysmic event but by a change in how we perceive the world and what happens as a result of that?

Remember the Wizard of OZ?  When Dorothy pulled back the curtain and found the all powerful Wizard was just a small wrinkled old man?

I am buying into the theory that civilization as we know it, is ending now.  And I am looking forward to it.  This is unavoidable but we have a choice whether to do it the hard way or the easy way.

How long have we been looking at the world and decrying war, famine, corruption, murder, child abuse?  How long have we been noticing that the harder we work the less money we seem to have in our pocket?  Why do we look at history and see that, in many ways, while our ancestors did not have all our modern conveniences, they seemed to have some treasures we don’t have or value in the same way today?  How come we can visit third world countries and wonder why they seem happier than we are?  Did we lose something?  Or was it taken?  Do you look at wars like Syria and wonder at the loss of childhoods, of life experiences that seem to go on forever?   What if it was you there?  What would be the point of life?

Having struggling for years for female emancipation, the right to vote, freedom from slavery, free speech, free travel, rights over our bodies,  how do come to have those rights stripped away in the space of 8 or 9 months?  When we have Constitutions to protect our basic human rights – how do find that now world governments unilaterally make laws to confine us without popular referendum?

Because it was all just a game.

And we, the majority of human beings were the pawns, governed by a 1% whom I will call the ELITE.  They played us really well by giving us the illusion that hard work reaped rewards and that kept us very busy – too busy to think outside the box  or the matrix.  We turned ourselves inside out listening to our Gurus who could sell us the secrets of success.  Let me tell you – many are fake, not all did it using their “secrets”.  You are about to find out.  They also gave us religion.  This will be important to remember in the coming weeks.  Now, in covid time, they want us to believe that obedience will reap rewards.

Thankfully, they also gave us lockdown – which, for the first time in a long time, gives us time out to think and to question – question ourselves.  Some are calling this time – the Great Awakening and I will sum it up briefly:

  • Corruption through the BANKS, pharma companies, politicians and corporations rules the world and the power is in the hands of the Elite who have no empathy with the ordinary people.   We are just to be used by them – we generate their wealth – they own us.
  • Mainstream media has been their tool to train us into compliance.
  • Media, Hollywood, medical professionals have been willing participants in our slavery.
  • We agreed to the corruption and slavery by our silence.

If you are a Trump hater but you want to lessen the pain that is coming, my advice is that you put that aside and continue to read this article to the end.

We agreed to the corruption and slavery by our silence – until Donald J Trump became President of the United States of America.  Now, he is at the very heart of the Great Awakening and our rescue.

While the world looked on – me included, Trump broke the mold of politics.  He spoke plain english but most of us were incapable of hearing it because we were used to hearing polished speeches which left us none the wiser once the speaker shut up.  But some people heard him:

  • the disadvantaged and disenfranchised
  • people who had experienced deep pain, hurt and injustice
  • spiritual seekers – many would have experienced deep pain
  • simple working class people with open hearts – empathy.

They became his army.  To the world’s astonishment he won the 2016 election.  Nobody expected it, least of all the US Elite politicians.  And THAT is the rock they now perish on.

In 2016 within 24 hours of Trump’s victory, the political Elite in the US and around the world went into the attack using the best tool possible – international mainstream media. You need to see who owns ALL the media.  There was no peaceful transition of power.  There was subterfuge, attack, traps, collusion, bribery.  Lives and careers were destroyed before Trump even got inside the door of the White House.  It continued through the Russian conspiracy which turned up NOTHING.  It continued through impeachment – NOTHING.  They tore the man, his family, his business, his friends, his colleagues and his past APART for 3 years and came up with nothing.  But they continued to lie and we continued to lap up the media brainwashing against him.  He stood alone and he took it.  I have a HUGE respect for the man.

While taking all that the world and the media threw at him, Trump continued to enact unbelievable changes which few have acknowledged apart from his own silent (note that SILENT) army of ordinary Americans, who saw each new enactment he made,  make their paycheck bigger and their lives tangibly better.

The media continued to fool the rest of us.  One important thing to note here is the positions his family members hold – not because he favors them but because, when surrounded by conspiracy and betrayal he needed trusted people in key positions.  Also most important to remember is that he needed to clean out the CIA, FBI, Homeland Security, Justice Dept and court system.  Does anyone at this stage need to be reminded what those US entities have done through war all over the world?  He cleaned those depts out to an extent and gathered trusted loyal teams around him within those organisations – very important for the coming election and voting system.

Finally we come to the US Election 2020 – I will note a few brief points without explanation because you will need to remember them in the coming days:

  • No supporters turned up for Biden rallies – mostly he didn’t have any.   He is almost incapable of speech.  He has memory dysfunction.  He had no policies other than more of the same.
  • As the voting commenced Trump was shown to be in the lead
  • Key states stopped the count for ridiculous reasons – one building had a leak!  This was when Trump called in the Judiciary for oversight.  Important to note that Trump called for Judiciary intervention as soon as the counting stopped – this was about 12 hours after the count began I think?  Note – not because he was losing because he wasn’t but because a cessation of counting across several station was an indication of something wrong.
  • Overnight, on the resumption of the vote Trump votes went down and Biden votes went up AT THE SAME TIME.  Vote switching inside the computers.  Votes are manual and computerized. Not only for Trump but for other House candidates also.  Not going into it here.
  • Massive vote fraud comes to light in the counting stations.
  • The MEDIA decided to declare Biden the winner while vote counting was still in progress and Biden accepted.   Later we find out that interference and stuffing the ballot boxes at counting stations is a normal and recognized pattern in US elections!
  • Votes for Trump were dumped literally on roadsides, votes for Biden were dropped at counting stations in the middle of the night.  Counters changed and filled in votes in favor of Biden.  Observers were not allowed even after court orders – all caught on hidden cameras.
  • Trump and many others have been warning about voter fraud for months.   Nobody listened. Trump and his teams instituted a blockchain technology which cannot be hacked and ran it beside the normal computerized voting system (normal system owned by NANCY PELOSI fyi).  They also had a new watermark placed inside the valid voting cards without anyone knowing.  Monday 9 November the process begins in Court where the evidence of fraud will be laid out.  The National Guard was put on alert weeks ago and have already been deplloyed in all areas necessary.
  • Trump will be declared President of the United States.
  • Careful examination of Presidential Executive Orders over the past years will show that Trump was ready for today.  Treason against the United States and against a sitting President carries the death penalty.  And it will be enforced.  Guantanamo Bay has been extended and improved over the last two years.  It has also been restaffed over the last 6 months.  Provision has been made for military tribunals to take place in camera there.  Gitmo could not be used to try American citizens – HOWEVER, it was clarified on camera at a Senate committee that any American Citizen either on US or foreign soil who commits an act of treason can be tried before military court NOT civil court – that means Gitmo.

That brings us to today and the purpose of this article.  Trump followers say “There is no stopping what is coming” and talk about the “Big Red Wave”  There is no stopping what is coming.  It is the end of our days of corruption and slavery.  Many (including me) started to wake up during covid.  Simply because so much made no sense.  We have been aware even if not all aware fully of the US drama’s central role.  It is important to remember a Trump saying “The best is yet to come”,.  Amazing things are in our future.  But first we have to deal with the ending.

I am awake and aware but even that did not prepare me for some things I have discovered lately – not been told by anyone, just discovered for myself.  In fact I have been physically not alright in my stomach for the last two weeks.

So, I have the utmost compassion for how many, who have no idea at all what has been happening in the world or inflicted on themselves, are going to feel as they come to see it.  Honestly, I do.  And I also know that I only know a fraction of what is to come.  Not just America – this is for every country in the world – for every town and every city and the unveiling of the corruption and depravity from the top to the most local.  Some has already started but going right over most people’s heads.  As I said – we have been conditioned to accept corruption and greed from those at the top.  Also conditioned to believing our inability to do anything about it.  Time to wake up.

Also I have no idea how fast or slow these revelations are going to come so my advice would be – start looking at and re-examining what is already being revealed in your own vicinity, whatever country you are in.  The sooner you get into the story, the less the impact will be later because your awareness will have begun.  Start questioning and joining the dots yourself.

Lastly – I said this is all a game.  Life is just a game.  We are in a matrix.  Have you not seen the film?  Watch “The Matrix” for some feel of game.  We are and have to interact with the Matrix.

Everything that you will be shown now will bring up emotions in you.  We have been living in fear and frustration one way or the other due to covid but also due to living conditions to which we were confined even before covid but did not know until now.

This will change to shock, anger and resentment.  It will be important for you to know that what you are witnessing outside of you has a lot to do with you, as much as it has to do with the horrible person you are now being shown in the form of a politician, doctor whatever.

We have the right to be angry with them.  But do not leave it there.  If you leave it there it just becomes a projection.  Some people are going to say we are projecting anyway – NO.  There is a reality to what the Elite are doing.  We are not responsible for their evilness.  You will even end up asking if they are human.  So do not be fooled into thinking they are merely an extension of your manifestations!

I spent a few weeks being angry at the evilness and corruption I have seen.  For the first time in my life I uttered the words “I hate” and directed it a living persons.  I admitted to myself and God that I hated these people and these “things” who behaved less than human.  I told God I make no apology for being honest about my feelings.  If God wanted to condemn me for feeling that hate – then I told Him I didn’t think much of Him either!  Feeling my anger and allowing it drove out the fear I previously felt.

I got over it.  The severity of the emotion transmuted itself.  That is not to say I will not experience the hatred for someone else in the next few weeks and I will deal with it.  Religion teaches us not to hate – it should teach us how to deal with it when righteously felt instead.

However, please do remember that giving in to rage and anger on a continuous basis, while it does give an energetic feeling of power – in the long run will destroy you.  Anger and rage may be felt but must be controlled.

The other side of feeling angry with evil people may be that we will see the victim in ourselves, the child, teenager, employee or business person who was prevented by the system or harmed by the system.  We have all been victims. Remember this – we have all been victims – how many times have you felt that you were a “victim of circumstances outside my control.”  ?  A thousand or more times.  Late to pick up your child at the school because of traffic – victim.  Don’t be afraid to admit this to yourself.

A personal note – I hate two things – vomiting and crying.  I hardly ever vomit lol!  I USED to rarely cry.  I hated crying especially in front of someone else.  A thing I would avoid at all costs.  I have ALLOWED myself quite a bit of crying the last few months without knowing why it was important to allow it.  Previously I would push it down and move my mind elsewhere.   Not now.

When the anger hits, take time to go inside and ask “what else am I feeling?”  Let it come up.  It will most likely bring tears.  Cry.  The crying will not go on forever lol!  It may only be a few mins – but it is important to let it out.  Letting it out removes the toxins on many levels and opens your awareness, it helps to open your heart.  A higher energy will come into you when you release what has been deep inside.

I realised that in the past, on the rare occasion I cried, I would have felt drained afterwards.   This is a different crying now.  This crying does not drain me nor does it last long.  I actually feel lighter afterwards.  I wish you luck with this.

I have no idea how long this time of Revelation is going to go on for but I know that like all things we have a choice:

  • Open our minds, listen, look, see and we are collectively on the fast track to a brighter and unbelievable future existence where many, many things are beyond our imaginations just now.  Those that are aware and awake already know some of these things.
  • Close our minds, turn away, refuse to take in the facts – yes it will be difficult and some will be beyond belief – we will still collectively be on the track to a brighter future – but at a much slower rate involving more pain and more personal, perhaps family losses.

The choice is for every individual to make.


Why I Deleted 450+ Facebook Friends

I deleted over 450 “friends” on Facebook last night before going to sleep.  My fingers were moving so fast I even deleted a couple unintentionally…anyway…

Who Did I Delete from My Facebook Friends List?

I unfriended anyone

  • whose face I couldn’t remember which means long time no contact
  • I have not had a message from in a long, long time, if ever
  • has not liked, shared or commented on a post of mine either in a long time or maybe never
  • that I don’t remember seeing a post from in my stream ever or for long time
  • who has no posts on their profile page apart from changing their profile photo every  so often

Why Did I Unfriend so many from my Facebook Friend list?

I could not take their SILENCE anymore.  I didn’t know if they were active, not active, looking at my stuffm hating it and staying silent, judging me.

Actually I did delete some others for questioning my mental state.  Disagreement on a subject I can take but to get THAT question from people who KNOW me?  No!

NOTE:  I did NOT delete friends for disagreeing with me on any subject.

I have read articles about how people’s reactions to us on social media affects us and I have been watching my own reactions.  When I do a spate of writing as I have over the last two weeks I noticed myself checking for reactions to my writing.  I loved the likes.  I like the comments and generally give an emoji in recognition for their comment if I have nothing more to add or I leave an answering comment.

But the thing I began to notice most was the feeling of rejection and emptiness at the huge number of people who left me no reaction whatsoever.  I began to feel like there was an army of people out there watching me, silently, like a stalker would.  That was neither nice nor healthy for me.  This is not reality – this is projection.  This means that unseen “friends” can control my feelings.  NOT HEALTHY.

I like writing and every morning when I come return home, where I am confined, and sit at my laptop.  My morning cycle usually generates a subject to write about before I get home, and I write from the heart, usually without corrections as it just pours out.

Social Media?  I got into it for business purposes – after coronavirus I intend to cut WAY back on it’s use and get an ordinary phone – for phone calls – if there is such a thing anymore.  I will divest myself of the spy in my pocket – my laptop will be my Elf on the Shelf – that’s it.

Other Pruning I did on Facebook

My deletions were not the end of my actions on facebook.  I also went through the many great groups I am joined there.  I didn’t leave them, but I did turn off notifications from all of them,  Now, for example if I am doing a few hours on my family tree I can go and check out what has happened in my genealogy groups since my last visit.  And it saves me time scrolling past loads of  genealogy related posts in a time when I am not in a position to use that info anyway.

Final thought – “following” and “followers” on any social media

FOLLOWERS:  The trend out there is to think that having thousands or millions of followers is great, amazing, wonderful, a kind of signal to the world how loved or important you are.  Well, unless you are some famous celebrity, it’s probably not.  If you are not getting feedback from your followers then, to me, they are just silent stalkers.  And if, like me, you feel let down by their lack of response, it’s not mentally or emotionally healthy.

However, I think of followers on Instagram differently to followers on facebook simply because of the content people put on Instagram.  But the term used on Facebook is “friend” and friends don’t leave you hanging on a limb when you say something.  Contacts on Linkedin are just that – a network of business contacts you may or may not interact with, but that depends on their business, your business and non-reaction there is different.  We acknowledge a difference of industries, interests and how busy everyone is.

FOLLOWING:  If you are following more than 200 people on Instagram or Twitter – you can’t read everything that is posted in a day and if you do, then you are not living a life, you are living other people’s lives who may or may not be living the life they say they are.  What a waste of a life!  Pruning who I follow on Instagram and Twitter is my next time saving and mental health preservation activity – soon as I get the time 🙂

Who Do I Want to “Friend” on my personal Facebook profile?

  • Everyone who did not get deleted last night hahaha!
  • Family and neighbors
  • real friends, old and new that I personally know
  • there are some people I have not personally met but have had good conversations with either on messenger or outside of facebook.

If you are one of the real friends I unfriend last night with my fast finger action!!! and want to re-establish the connection send me friend request.

To My Friends Who Request Actions and I Don’t Oblige

For several reasons I never respond to any of the following

  • requests to post or copy/paste content to prove I read your post that did not have picture
  • request for any type of chain reaction similar to the above
  • posts requesting copy and paste to prove I am your friend or sympathise/empathize with those who have cancer etc.  If you ask me to copy and paste a post which focuses on recover, health, well-being I MIGHT copy and paste it because that is the opposite end of the usual focus on disease.
  • mostly I don’t comment on, share or respond to posts you make that are negative, fear engendering, rabble rousing or advocating action on behalf of the latest social or popular trend.

Why I Delete Some Comments on my Facebook Posts

I tend to delete your comments on my posts that set one section of society against another, and comments where the writer is in direct opposition to what I wrote AND is giving me an argument in their defense which I most likely am already well aware of.  I try for the most part to refrain from negative commentary on current events etc UNLESS I absolutely feel I have to and I have a solution to offer. I don’t allow fighting on my personal page.  My page is for my opinion.  If you agree, great – we have something in common.  If you don’t agree, go write on your own page and I won’t comment there.

In Conclusion – Be Aware of What Your Posts Say about You

We are all different biological ages, at different stages of awareness, learning, education and mental capabilities.  Recognize this when you decide to take someone up on their posts on their pages.  Recognize everyone has the right to have their own current opinion.  If you can’t change a person’s ideology with peaceful logic you are only going to entrench them by using anger, aggression, contempt or ridicule in your words.

What we say on social media says more than we are aware of.  We may be speaking up for a very good cause.  At the moment there is a HUGE outpouring from the white community on the issue of black lives matter.  BUT most are completely unaware of what can also be read into what they are posting, especially when it is followed up with support for pulling down statues, banning books and now we are checking images and labels on food.

Psychologists and public manipulators and profilers are having a field day with what people are revealing about themselves here.  A whole lot of shadow stuff and mirroring going on there.  Fascinating to watch but uncomfortably revealing and what it reveals most of all is … deep rooted fear and insecurity.

This should not be a black lives matter movement.  It should be people against police brutality movement which is what the sparking incident in this current situation was.   Sane, intelligent people are losing their reason at the moment.  Too much is going on around and fear is being expressed in actions of anger.  We feel it is ok to be angry for a “good or just cause”.  Well, if there is too much of that fear being transmuted into public anger… our neighborhoods and communities will go up in flames.  Fanning these flames from what is perceived to be a safe distance via social media is an illusion.

That’s it – rant over!  Have a nice day.