“Everything, without exception, that happens me is for my good” is a belief I have been cultivating since about 2000 when I first read Louise Hay’s book “You Can Heal Your Life”.
Usually it is when I am experiencing a set-back, disappointment or an apparent disaster that I work on making this belief stronger. It means that when disaster or disappointment strikes I try to remember that since absolutely everything is for my good, my ultimate and highest good, it will serve me better to accept instead of resent the situation.
This is not easy as of course, I have emotions and all the natural reactions any person has. But I try to switch my focus, not talk about it and find something else to occupy my mind – in those situations I play a LOT of Su Doku!
When shit happens I now practice:
- Remind myself “I did this, I created this!”
- Remind myself “And I can bloody well fix it!”
- Not lose my head too much in the moment, not go into a spiral of blame, resentment, anger, depression or frustration
- Not lash out in anger at my nearest and dearest
- Remind myself to keep a look out now for the benefit from this shitty thing that just happened.
- Watch CAREFULLY for something great that is happening BECAUSE of the shitty thing. It will be something that could not have happened WITHOUT the shitty thing.
- Remind myself of all the times this has happened me before. All the times good came from bad. Keep watching out for the miracle regardless of time – it might not be today it happens.
- But it will happen – IF I am watching out for and expecting it. IF I switch my focus from the shitty thing to the expected happy surprise now that there is nothing to be done about the shit.
If you want to try this just take some time to sit down with a pen and paper. Look back over your life and find happy events that you now know would not have happened only for some connected disaster having happened you some time before.
By the way, sometimes it might be only a few hours between the disappointment and the miracle – but sometimes it can be weeks, months and even years – but there is always a connection, you just have to look hard enough to find it.
PERSONAL EXAMPLE – A recent and quite substantial miracle for me and my son, Stephen. It began with the apparent disaster and disappointment when we were all set to buy a beautiful old building in Cairo – perfect for a boutique hotel.
Everything seemed right about it. The building was beautiful outside and needed just a little love and care to make it shine again. The location was perfect. The price was right The timing SEEMED right and we had other investors.
Then the week before we were to close the sale, one of our investors had to pull out due to the Irish economic worsening situation. It was a BIG disappointment. HOWEVER, 6 months later, it was 25 Jan 2011 and Egypt was at the beginning of a long and debilitating revolution – which was about to wipe out the Egyptian tourism industry. THERE was our miracle, there was our silver lining.
Had we completed the sale, by the time the revolution hit we would have spent most of the money needed and had a unique but completely empty boutique hotel.
Where Am I Today – 2013 Oct 20?
The ongoing situation in Egypt has had me in an up and down, up and down financial position since 2011. Until early 2013 when, to a greater extent, the tourism industry flat-lined completely. Keeping my balance has not been easy.
My worst moments have been those when I struggled against the situation; those days and nights when I sat dreaming up ways to encourage tourists back, dreaming of bringing the kind of community schemes to Egypt that helped us progress in Ireland during economic difficulties. The frustration in the knowing there was no reason for us not having tourists; – reality that can be seen with hindsight. Luxor has been uneventful apart from an odd incident here and there, but no tourists ever involved – apart from the balloon crash and that could happen anywhere.
But for every night of despair and every disappointment I can point to an awakening, a realization. I have progressed enormously towards happiness and understanding that I create my own reality, regardless of circumstances around me.
I have discovered and polished up more than one hidden talent. So while I am still waiting for the financial recovery and miracle, at least once a day I raise my eyes to heaven and say “Come on God – where is it? It’s been a while now and I’m ready, very ready for my ‘only for the revolution miracle’! That is not a cry of despair – that is me letting God/Universe know I am ready and looking for signs to encourage my belief.
To end my story for today – let me just say that over the last 6 days I have thanked God/Universe daily for closing some doors for me.
Let’s just say I know now I have been saved from the jaws of hell and my feet are set firmly on a better path – with a better attitude and renewed faith that absolutely every single thing that happens is for my ultimate good!
When shit happens – keep your head and be on the look out for the resulting miracle, the silver lining that would now be, without the shit that flew my way.